Author: Michael van Gelder (http://betthisisoriginal.wordpress.com)
When we discuss the concept of “Soulmates” in the following blog post, I’m going by my definition, which is as follows: The “other” person out there in the world that will “complete” them. Essentially the “other half” of one’s soul, hence soul mate, one that you will love unconditionally and they will do the same to you.
Firstly, let me say that the concept of a soulmate, in the form of one other person somewhere in the whole wide world of 6.7 billion [reference], is rubbish. (For the purpose of simplicity, we will assume that your soulmate is going be a member of the opposite gender, not that I’m saying that gay and lesbian people don’t have soulmates, but just for the sake of this blog and ease of working). Thus, if we divide that number by half (again, not an accurate figure, but simply for the purpose of illustration), we get a possible pool of 3.35 billion people who could be your potential soulmate.
I simply don’t believe that there is only one other person in the whole world that can make us happy for the rest of our lives. The odds of finding this person are simply far too great for the concept to exist. Now, I hear some people saying that you are “drawn” to your soulmate, but I don’t believe that either. How often do you hear about people traveling across the world to another country where people don’t even speak English to find their soulmate? Are you trying to tell me that soulmates are only people who are geographically, culturally and racially similar to oneself?
No, I don’t believe in what I call the “Single Soulmate” theory.
What I do believe in, is that almost any person has the potential to become what people would call “soulmates”. In other words, they become really close, start a relationship, fall in love, get married and live happily ever after. In that scenario, would you call those people soulmates? Of course you would. But now consider that theoretically anybody could have taken the part of one of those soulmates. I believe that with enough contact and the right amount of effort put into the relationship, almost any two people can become what people would call “soulmates”.
The reason that I use the qualifier almost in the above paragraph is simple. Some people are obviously not soulmates. If you hate somebody, there is absolutely no way that that person is going to be your soulmate, right? Of course not, because the very definition of a soulmate is two peole who you love each other unconditionally.
The question of past relationships is another interesting question. How does one know that all of one’s past 50 relationships haven’t been with one’s soulmate. Of course, if we assume that your specific soulmate could be any of the 3.35 BILLION (that’s 3 350 000 000) members of the opposite gender on the planet, it is EXTREMELY unlikely that you have met your soulmate simply by dating 50 people. However, by virtue of having broken up with those people, surely it would eliminate the possibility of being soulmates, because of the whole “perfect relationship” that would surely occur as a result of two soulmates finding each other?
Say for example, a couple have been together for 5 years and they are very emotionally involved in the relationship and believe that they are “soulmates”. However, say the guy cheats on the girl, or vice versa, and they break up because of it. Does that mean that they were never soulmates to begin with, because surely two soulmates who had found one another would never cheat or hurt the other in any way?
It is this very definition that causes problems with the soulmate concept. As humans we are constantly making mistakes, hurting others (whether intentionally or unintentionally), and just generally messing up. So the very concept of two soulmates: I.E. perfect people whose relationship is perfect in every way shape and form is flawed by definition.
How can one tell if one has found one’s soulmate? In short, there is no way to tell, because soulmates do not exist. If you are happy in your relationship, there is no need to try and attribute that happiness to a different plane of existence or something supernatural. You’re probably happy because you put time and effort into the relationship to make it work, and your partner probably did the same. You weren’t destined to be together. You made it happen.
So if you are one of those people who believes in soulmates, I say good on you. I will never run your beliefs down, but I do believe that you are wasting your time on something that does not exist. You will most likely find somebody who makes you happy and settle down with that person, believing that you have found your soulmate. However, if that person breaks your heart for whatever reason, you obviously haven’t found your soulmate and the search will continue. Personally, this seems like a recipe for disaster, and seems almost like setting yourself up for constant disappointment as every relationship does not miraculously turn into a magically perfect connection that will never be broken.
I don’t know, maybe I am just cynical. What do you guys think? Do you believe in soulmates? If so, how do you recognise your soulmate and know when you are with your soulmate? I’d love to hear what you guys think.
blackcapsteve commented on 23 Aug 2010, 10:15:41
This is my belief system.
We are souls. We ‘belong’ in spirit. That is our home, that is where we seek to be. Our aim is to gradually increase in vibration as part of all that is. For various reasons we choose to live a life in the material, thereby giving us various experiences and challenges, and thus we are able, by a life well lived to increase our vibration higher than it would have been had we remained in spirit. We can also choose a material life, in order to aid and provide support for others, and not just ourselves. One of those places where we can choose to ‘incarnate’ is planet Earth.
Earth presents various challenges, by virtue of its density, and also there is the ability for the incarnated spirit to have free choice whilst living a life as a human. This is fantastic for growth, but the downside is that if we screw up, we can return home after a life on earth to find we have gone down the scale rather than up. If we live a human life and harm others, then this is not good.
Now to correct this drop, we can stay where we are and gradually rise, or, we can elect to reincarnate, and thereby redress the balance by living a good life. Obviously if we succeed its great, but if we make a hash of a life again, we can be worse off than we were.
This is Karma. This is the wheel on which we can get stuck where we have to constantly come back to Earth in order to try to live a life which will payback our previous misdemeanours.
Rather than going to Earth on a solo mission, it is more likely that we will stick around with a group of souls, and incarnate together, often interacting with each other whilst in our human forms. It is quite common to bump into one of this group as they tend to pick geographical locations on Earth which are together. Sometimes a few of the group do not incarnate, but stay in spirit.
When we sleep we can contact ‘home’ and each other, and messages and feelings can be passed in the form of dreams or insights.
From what I have read this soul group is called a monad, and I believe that there are usually 13 members. Hence we have 12 soulmates.
Now meeting a soulmate is not always the wonderful thing which it is imagined. The group of souls know what each of the souls ‘mission’ on earth is. If we have gone off track then our soulmate will instinctively try to get us back on course. This can be very uncomfortable and often painful, as we suddenly find our earthly lives being disrupted by others.
There are other issues too. If you are still reading then this aspect is the most complex. A soul is large. Too large to fit entirely into a human form during an incarnation. Therefore ‘an aspect’ of our soul incarnates whilst the rest can be doing other things elsewhere. We are able to communicate with all aspects of our soul during quiet moments or sleep. Now.. imagine two aspects of the same soul incarnate at the same time on Earth. These two humans have a very special connection, sometimes called a ‘twin flame’. Meeting that other person will be very very special.
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